Although I may be a divorce lawyer, I have no interest in breaking up a marriage that could be saved. Whenever a potential client comes into my office contemplating divorce, I ask them a series of questions before agreeing to partner with them.
Is Your Relationship Fifty-Fifty?
No one has a perfectly balanced fifty-fifty relationship, but ideally, it falls somewhere near this ratio. A good relationship relies on partners bearing equal amounts of responsibility and responsiveness. You and your spouse are supposed to care about each other and what you’re building together. If one of you is doing the bulk of the heavy lifting, neither of you is likely as happy as you might think.
If there is one word that can make a divorced person bristle, it is forgiveness. And honestly, that reaction makes complete sense. When you have been betrayed, abandoned, lied to, or simply left behind to rebuild a life you did not ask for, the idea of forgiving the person who caused that pain can feel not just difficult, but deeply unfair. Like being asked to let someone off the hook for a crime they committed and never apologized for.But here is what no one tells you clearly enough: forgiveness is not about them. It never was.
Choosing how to end a marriage is one of the most important decisions you will make during a divorce. Opting for a mediator instead of immediately turning to lawyers and the court system can reshape not only how your divorce is handled legally, but also how you and your family experience the process emotionally.
Going through a divorce was undoubtedly one of the most challenging experiences of my life. The emotional rollercoaster, the uncertainty about the future, and the feeling of isolation were overwhelming.
While divorce can be complicated, you can make it through the dissolution of your marriage and thrive emotionally, physically and financially through the process.